Guy Cry CinemaThese 5 Movies Teach Lessons of Manliness That Make Guys Cry
DISCLAIMER: This is not a series dedicated to proving men shouldn't cry, or to suggest ONLY women cry and are therefore inferior. The goal of this series is to dispel the pre-established (yet flawed) notion that being "manly" and being disconnected from your emotions go hand-in-hand. Even the most macho of men enjoy and even shed a tear at films, and the sooner we can admit that the sooner the concept that one sex is better than the other can go away. While the approach to these articles is one of light-hearted comedy, the emotional core is valid. While men might be more hesitant to admit it, movies often times have the potential to make us cry, for example:
"Lessons of Manliness"
Movies that drip testosterone don't necessarily teach us anything. That's ok, not all movies have to have deep meanings. Sometimes you just want to see spaceships explode or biceps beat up the bad guys. However, to transcend the "popcorn movie" and join the ranks of truly memorable films they need to teach us how life should work. Knowing who the bad guy is and why the good guy is fragging them serves as bare minimum for a plot, but actually learning how to be a better man yourself after viewing the film is what creates cinematic classics. When I say "better man," I don't mean being able to light a match with your chin stubble. Being a better man involves life lessons such as standing up for what you believe in, defending the innocent even if it means putting yourself in danger, etc. Lessons that work just as well for women as they do for men, and when presented very often bring tears to our eyes.
The plot isn't really a plot and there's something magical about that. Ferris realizes that his life is about to get a lot more boring and lonely as an official adult, and wants to have one more adventure as a kid. No cross-country trip to find his love, or gigantic implausible monsters to fight...just seeing a parade, swimming and eating at a restaurant. The care-free nature that he displays is starkly contrasted by Cameron, his friend and consummate worrywart.
At the end of the film Cameron shows some character growth, but there's one moment Ferris breaks the fourth wall and predicts Cameron's future that really rings truer that many of us would like. Cameron will marry the first girl who shows him attention, and generally be unhappy by living in the fear-filled shadow of his father. For those of us who have friends with rough stretches of life that could be seen coming miles away, this part can tighten the chest a little bit. It's a rough lesson to learn, but sometimes you have to not just know of the danger ahead, but plan for it. Ferris did, Cameron didn't.