Love FAQ

Love FAQ
With This Plasma Rifle, I Thee Wed

Lara Crigger | 19 Aug 2011 12:00
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Dear Love FAQ,

My fiance and I are planning our wedding. The problem is, we want to celebrate our geeky side without being tacky (no Master Chief figurines as centerpieces!) and without isolating those in our families who don't get their game on. Is there any advice you could give us on making our wedding a unique - but NOT weird - experience?


The Master Chief to His Cortana

P.S.: There is one thing I know we'll do for certain: I'm walking down the aisle to a choral version of Nobuo Uematsu's "Prelude," from the Final Fantasy series.

Dear Master Chief,

Girl, you came to the right place. I happen to have first-hand experience in this exact situation.

You can still express your individuality in a situation as formal as a wedding, just keep it subtle and appropriate to the occasion. After all, what makes a Halo centerpiece tacky isn't the medium in which Master Chief first appeared. It's all the dead aliens and sun visors. (They just clash with the dress.)

As you've already discovered, ceremony music is an ideal way to tastefully nod to your favorite hobbies, especially since so many videogame soundtracks offer instrumental pieces that could easily work in a processional or candle-lighting. And don't feel limited by piano or symphonic arrangements, either; the OverClocked Remix archives offer high-quality, free-to-the-public revamps of classic game tunes, everything from jazz to orchestral to hip-hop.

Consider your attire as fair game, too. Nobody's saying you should walk down the aisle in a Varia suit, but you can still select colors, fabric, patterns, jewelry, even a hair style that pays tribute to your favorite heroines or game moments. Get as ambitious as you like -- I modeled my own wedding dress after Celes' opera house gown -- but in the interest of simplicity, a single pendant or ribbon in your hair will work just fine. Just as long as *you* know what it symbolizes.

Decorations are another opportunity to personalize: Anything from table cards emblazoned with Vault Boy's grinning face to flower arrangements inspired by Final Fantasy summons could work. Again, the sky's the limit here (and I'm sure our commenters will have plenty of suggestions). But at the same time, don't get carried away; the point isn't the spectacle, but the familiarity of it all, a little wink-wink-nudge-nudge for those guests in the know.

Above all else, don't let anyone convince you to forgo indulging your inner geek altogether. Because I'll let you in on a well-kept bridal secret: Your wedding day isn't just the best day of your life; it's also the most *terrifying.*

It's easy to lose yourself in the stress and anxiety of that day. That's why it's so important to include personal touches in your ceremony, familiar talismans that will ground you and focus your thoughts. And if that source of comfort and peace is the opening theme to Final Fantasy, then by God, you make your bridesmaids and your flower girl and your preacher strut their stuff to Nobuo Uematsu all day long if you need to. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

For you and your husband, videogames are a source of joy, comfort and peace - an integral part of your lives. Embrace that. Your wedding is *your* wedding, nobody else's, and it's not tacky if it makes you happy.

Best of luck, and mazel tov!

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