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Happyninja42:

CoCage:

Happyninja42:
Those 2 fan favorite fighters in Attack on Titan, Levi and the girl one that never talks much, aren't actually super skilled. They just know how to SHUT THE FUCK UP WHEN ATTACKING, and don't start yelling at the top of their lungs right before they try and ambush a giant from behind.

Town just to be the walking dead, but with giant monsters and even less interesting characters for me. During the 2013 to 2014 anime season. I found shows like space dandy and kill la kill more enjoyable. AoT just felt more like your stock shown an affair, but darker and more military.

Never seen either of those, I'm not a huge anime fan, I only watch a few here and there that catch my interest. I enjoyed watching AoT for a bit, but I kept getting frustrated with their blood curdling scream tactic of attack. I mean, it was really funny, how often the scene would boil down as basically:

1. Titan obliviously wanders the street.
2. Shot of one of the defenders flying by in the background, quiet and unnoticed.
3. Transition shot to defender as they prepare for their attack on the neck.
4. RIDICULOUSLY LOUD SCREAM AS THEY APPROACH THE TARGET, BLOWING ALL ATTEMPTS AT STEALTH AND AMBUSH.
5. Titan, obviously alerted by the increasingly loud noise behind them due to doppler effect, basically goes "huh?" turns around, ruins the open strike on it's weak point, and gets an already delivered snack.
6. Other defenders look on in shock that the attack didn't work.
7. I apply bandage to my forehead due to smashing it against the table in frustration.

I reccomend both shows, and neither are long either (Dandy is 26 episodes and KLK is 25 episodes). Space Dandy is a comedy made by the guy who did Cowboy Bebop, and Kill La Kill was made by the team that did Gurren Lagann.


trunkage:
Does this mean you can defenestrate yourself?

Only if you're feeling kinky.

I just realized after seeing the Guardian of the Galaxy films, there is no reason not to make a Captain Commando movie. I want my Baby Mech dammit! When you have talking racoon, anything is possible!

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trunkage:
Hey, just checking everything's still okay

Ok, here goes.

Back in January I met a woman (for convenience, let's call her Julia) at a close friend's house party. We got along well, started hanging out, became friends. I developed feelings for her, and eventually decided to man up and invited her for dinner, we had a nice evening, kissed, and the next thing we were dating. The next few months were honestly some of the best I've had. Julia is smart, funny, sweet, supportive, pretty darn attractive, a little geeky, and a whole bunch of other good qualities. Honestly I initially thought her out of my league. She's basically everything I could want in a girlfriend.

But some things bothered me. Like how Julia told me she worked in a bar, but I noticed she only worked 3 days a week on average, and how could she afford an apartment and make ends meet on just that? Or how I once found what I was pretty sure were (negative) STD test results on her kitchen counter while looking for some other stuff. But everything else was great and I was afraid I'd maybe ruin thing by prying, so I sort of wrote it off and banked on trust. Then friday last week I felt like thing had got to the point where I felt confident in asking her to go steady, but I wanted things to be clear between us first. So we met at her place, I expressed what I wanted from out relationship and voiced my concerns, and that's when she told me what she actually does for a living:

"I'm a prostitute"

Julia started explaining after, like how she didn't tell right away because every time she did before when dating outside the sector the guy always ditched her, and she wanted to wait for a good time. How she's doing it entirely of her own will, there's no coercion or drugs involved, always uses protection, gets herself tested every month and that the sex on the job is strictly business. How she really wants to continue our relationship and promised to always be open from now on. I just stood there and listened. I didn't know what to say. I didn't know how to react. I eventually said I needed some time and left. I haven't seen or talked to her since, tho she's been messaging and calling a lot.

Now I don't know what to do. I'm hurt that she lied, but I still love her. Having her in my life was a vast improvement. Part of me wants to forgive and believe her that we can make this work. Part of me is afraid we can't and that I won't be able to handle her, you know. Asked some close friends for advice. Opinions are split 50/50 between "take the chance" and "better end it now".

Done. Made it through. If anything, felt somewhat relieving to write it all down.

Chimpzy:

trunkage:
Hey, just checking everything's still okay

Ok, here goes.

Back in January I met a woman (for convenience, let's call her Julia) at a close friend's house party. We got along well, started hanging out, became friends. I developed feelings for her, and eventually decided to man up and invited her for dinner, we had a nice evening, kissed, and the next thing we were dating. The next few months were honestly some of the best I've had. Julia is smart, funny, sweet, supportive, pretty darn attractive, a little geeky, and a whole bunch of other good qualities. Honestly I initially thought her out of my league. She's basically everything I could want in a girlfriend.

But some things bothered me. Like how Julia told me she worked in a bar, but I noticed she only worked 3 days a week on average, and how could she afford an apartment and make ends meet on just that? Or how I once found what I was pretty sure were (negative) STD test results on her kitchen counter while looking for some other stuff. But everything else was great and I was afraid I'd maybe ruin thing by prying, so I sort of wrote it off and banked on trust. Then friday last week I felt like thing had got to the point where I felt confident in asking her to go steady, but I wanted things to be clear between us first. So we met at her place, I expressed what I wanted from out relationship and voiced my concerns, and that's when she told me what she actually does for a living:

"I'm a prostitute"

Julia started explaining after, like how she didn't tell right away because every time she did before when dating outside the sector the guy always ditched her, and she wanted to wait for a good time. How she's doing it entirely of her own will, there's no coercion or drugs involved, always uses protection, gets herself tested every month and that the sex on the job is strictly business. How she really wants to continue our relationship and promised to always be open from now on. I just stood there and listened. I didn't know what to say. I didn't know how to react. I eventually said I needed some time and left. I haven't seen or talked to her since, tho she's been messaging and calling a lot.

Now I don't know what to do. I'm hurt that she lied, but I still love her. Having her in my life was a vast improvement. Part of me wants to forgive and believe her that we can make this work. Part of me is afraid we can't and that I won't be able to handle her, you know. Asked some close friends for advice. Opinions are split 50/50 between "take the chance" and "better end it now".

Done. Made it through. If anything, felt somewhat relieving to write it all down.

Hey man, that takes courage. My only similar experience is dating a couple of women who figured out they were lesbian through our relationship

She's in a tough spot. You probably would have had the same level of... frustration? Anguish? if she told earlier. No matter when she said it, she would have sounded like she was covering it up.

Me personally, I'd go for it. But I would try to be open and talk about how uncomfortable it feels

But, then, I don't know what specifically is the issue. Her being a prostitute or liar. If the former, what specifically about prostitutes make it a hard deal?

ObsidianJones:
This is a cooking thought, but I'm counting it.

Why do we act like #CancelCulture is a new thing? The only thing new is the Nomenclature. Boycotts, McCarthyism, Flower Power vs the Man, Treatment of Abolitionist, Socialism, Censorship during the new Media Era, the list goes on and on.

If you name a period in history, you will find someone against almost every aspect of it.

Hell, 80's had us against Socialism, us against rampant consumerist greed, us against the poor, us against the yuppies, us against nu wave, us against all the various types of metal genres, us against the new era, us against the status quo, us against the Me Era, us against Hands around the world...

90's was the counter culture movement, us against the Companies destroying the earth, us against the new hippies, us against the intellectual movement in hip hop, us against the rise of gangsta rap, us against conservatism, us against PC...

2000's was the Return of the Me Era, us against the war in Iraq, us against the speaking out against the troops (which meant anything, just as the Dixie Chicks), us against corporate greed that caused the recession, us against hand outs and lowering prices because companies need to stay competitive, us against PC Gone Amuck, us against the rise of hate groups again, us against cyber bullying, us against censorship and people with thin skins, us against the climate change weirdos who believe the earth is changing, us against the climate change weirdos who don't believe the earth is changing...

There was no end to it. There will be no end to it. And for people to constantly say "It's never been as bad as this" can't remember when D&D was almost outlawed for being Satanic. Or how one of the greatest comedians who ever done it had to change Obscenity Laws in the Supreme Court, ushering a new way of communication in media. Or how a decent amount of the population called in death threats and boycotted Ellen DeGeneres after she came out on her show.

This is all the same bs it's always been. It will be the same bs ten years from now with a same name. And you will think it's never been as bad as it was before.

Or, you can just break the cycle and be ok with 7 billion people being different and voicing it. Give respect as much as you want to give it, and understand the spotlight needs to shine on others from time to time.

It's not so much that it's new, so much as it is incredibly faster these days.

https://youtu.be/2MZZ__5F_-A?t=49

Chimpzy:
Now I don't know what to do. I'm hurt that she lied, but I still love her. Having her in my life was a vast improvement. Part of me wants to forgive and believe her that we can make this work. Part of me is afraid we can't and that I won't be able to handle her, you know. Asked some close friends for advice. Opinions are split 50/50 between "take the chance" and "better end it now".

Done. Made it through. If anything, felt somewhat relieving to write it all down.

To give a slightly different take from trunkage; it's quite understandable that you're of two minds on the subject. I'd imagine that right now you're a whirlwind of conflicting emotions. I would like to volunteer, however, that the lie here is understandable. Regrettable, but understandable. Prostitution tends to be a rather stigmatized job, and leading with that is liable to scare off people she'd want to emotionally connect with. Whether or not you'd have been scared away, I cannot say, but surely you can see how - before knowing you - she could reasonably have assumed that you would.

Now, I'm not going to tell you whether to go for the relationship or call it off. I would, however, suggest talking with her about this. I don't know what parts of this bug you. Maybe it's her job, maybe it's just the lie, maybe it's both. Regardless, talking about it with her will help her understand how and why you're conflicted, giving some closure if you decide to end it, and to potentially address your concerns if you decide to continue.

trunkage:
Me personally, I'd go for it. But I would try to be open and talk about how uncomfortable it feels

But, then, I don't know what specifically is the issue. Her being a prostitute or liar. If the former, what specifically about prostitutes make it a hard deal?

Asita:
I would, however, suggest talking with her about this. I don't know what parts of this bug you. Maybe it's her job, maybe it's just the lie, maybe it's both. Regardless, talking about it with her will help her understand how and why you're conflicted, giving some closure if you decide to end it, and to potentially address your concerns if you decide to continue.

I don't actually think there's an inherent problem with a woman choosing to make a living selling her body, and if she'd told me from the start then I could've accepted it. It probably wouldn't be easy, but I'm pretty sure I could made my peace with it. It's the lie that hit me hardest. All my previous relationship kind of ended up unmitigated disasters in large part because of cheating and lying. I've always had a difficult time opening up to people and that only made it harder to give that kind of trust again, until I met her. So yeah, though pill to swallow.

But I did a lot of soul searching these last few days, calmed down, gathered my thoughts, and I came also came to the conclusion that her lie was understandable. I absolutely hate that she did, but I get why and I want to give her a second chance. So I messaged her today. We're meeting this tuesday to talk. Knock on wood.

ObsidianJones:
This is a cooking thought, but I'm counting it.

Why do we act like #CancelCulture is a new thing? The only thing new is the Nomenclature. Boycotts, McCarthyism, Flower Power vs the Man, Treatment of Abolitionist, Socialism, Censorship during the new Media Era, the list goes on and on.

OK, #CancelCulture may not be NEW (everything is cyclical if you go back far enough), but I think it's fair to say that it represents a resurgent form of intolerance for divergent opinions. I'm probably being myopic but it feels like there was a period between the 80s and early 2000s where you could pretty much say whatever you wanted - not without rebuke, not without consequence, but without censure. You know, the good old days where people would respond with a counterargument or an insult, not death threats or petitions to your employer.

And if the best thing you can say about the mostly Leftist culture of mob-mandated punishment for wrongthink is that "well, McCarthyism was bad too", then that's setting the bar fairly low.

The good news is that I actually believe the pendulum is starting to swing the other way and people are having less truck with outrage politics. It seemed to spike somewhere around 2015 or 2016?

I was wondering how I'm going to die, how painful it will be and if I'll have that moment of grim awareness that it's happening or if it'd be sudden and catch me unawares. (YouTube algorithm has convinced me that about half the human population are serial killers, and I'm likely going to be chopped up in someone's basement when my time comes...)

Then I started thinking about the difference between death and dying, 'death' being the state of and 'dying' being the process, and how I don't actually fear death, but am terrified of dying.

Then I got metaphysical: if death is where it ends, where conscious self is severed from the physical, does the dying matter if you're dead and unable to recount the memory of dying? I.e., I cut my finger a couple weeks ago; it hurt in the moment, even for a few days afterwards, but it doesn't now; the only remnant of that pain is the memory. I'm agnostic, so I'm willing to accept the possibility of an afterlife or nothing at all, but if it's the former, could we actually carry with us memories that would make a violent, painful death scarring and traumatic?

Then I got soap in my eyes.

Chimpzy:

trunkage:
Me personally, I'd go for it. But I would try to be open and talk about how uncomfortable it feels

But, then, I don't know what specifically is the issue. Her being a prostitute or liar. If the former, what specifically about prostitutes make it a hard deal?

Asita:
I would, however, suggest talking with her about this. I don't know what parts of this bug you. Maybe it's her job, maybe it's just the lie, maybe it's both. Regardless, talking about it with her will help her understand how and why you're conflicted, giving some closure if you decide to end it, and to potentially address your concerns if you decide to continue.

I don't actually think there's an inherent problem with a woman choosing to make a living selling her body, and if she'd told me from the start then I could've accepted it. It probably wouldn't be easy, but I'm pretty sure I could made my peace with it. It's the lie that hit me hardest. All my previous relationship kind of ended up unmitigated disasters in large part because of cheating and lying. I've always had a difficult time opening up to people and that only made it harder to give that kind of trust again, until I met her. So yeah, though pill to swallow.

But I did a lot of soul searching these last few days, calmed down, gathered my thoughts, and I came also came to the conclusion that her lie was understandable. I absolutely hate that she did, but I get why and I want to give her a second chance. So I messaged her today. We're meeting this tuesday to talk. Knock on wood.

Hey, I know I'm just some guy on the internet with you, but seeing this got my eyes welling up. I don't think I'm alone in saying that I'm happy you're giving this at least a shot. Happiness is not what we dream the world to be, but what we find in the world.

Batou667:

ObsidianJones:
This is a cooking thought, but I'm counting it.

Why do we act like #CancelCulture is a new thing? The only thing new is the Nomenclature. Boycotts, McCarthyism, Flower Power vs the Man, Treatment of Abolitionist, Socialism, Censorship during the new Media Era, the list goes on and on.

OK, #CancelCulture may not be NEW (everything is cyclical if you go back far enough), but I think it's fair to say that it represents a resurgent form of intolerance for divergent opinions. I'm probably being myopic but it feels like there was a period between the 80s and early 2000s where you could pretty much say whatever you wanted - not without rebuke, not without consequence, but without censure. You know, the good old days where people would respond with a counterargument or an insult, not death threats or petitions to your employer.

And if the best thing you can say about the mostly Leftist culture of mob-mandated punishment for wrongthink is that "well, McCarthyism was bad too", then that's setting the bar fairly low.

The good news is that I actually believe the pendulum is starting to swing the other way and people are having less truck with outrage politics. It seemed to spike somewhere around 2015 or 2016?

The problem with me is that I see all of human's inventions as potentially good, and potentially evil with only a few examples of human society to being inherently evil or bad (sexism, Racism, etc).

I view CancelCulture the same way I view Religion, as it were. For every white nationalist saying God made their race superior so they are allowed and duty bound to strike at the 'lessers', there are people who use their religion to give them strength to go out and do wondrous things because they want to share in their beliefs and their idea that we should be good to each other.

For every half-baked, knee jerk reaction to a really bad date like Aziz Ansari... there are people taking down the Harvey Weinsteins.

This isn't to lessen the damage an accusation can do to a dude. But I recognize where Cancel Culture. Harvey Weinstein wasn't even a secret in Hollywood. Suggestions about Bill Cosby ranged back to 1965. There's a feeling of "I don't have to take this any more" that can be God Damned Heady. And furthermore, not wrong to want to explore. I will never know what it's like to be physically outmatched by 50 percent of the population. I will not know the fear. And I sure as hell won't know what it's like to have a detective question you if 'you just decided afterwards you didn't want your reputation ruined' (said to no fewer than ten of my friends).

Divergent Opinions are "I believe in Right-wing politics" and "I believe in Left-wing politics". Saying "you don't get to bully or abuse me to use my body for your wants" isn't an opinion. Because it used to be either you did what these people said or you weren't going to work in this town again. Now that the weapon is in the other people's hands. And we can have discussions on how it should be wielded, that's fair. But it's simply the same weapon once used to marginalize the disenfranchised even more.

That's why it's nothing new. The targets are just different.

Batou667:

The good news is that I actually believe the pendulum is starting to swing the other way and people are having less truck with outrage politics. It seemed to spike somewhere around 2015 or 2016?

I'd have thought that 2016 marked the start of it, or at least set off a new course. There was the leadup to the election, which was ugly as hell, then Trump actually gets elected, and from what I can see, things are getting even worse.

ObsidianJones:
Hey, I know I'm just some guy on the internet with you, but seeing this got my eyes welling up. I don't think I'm alone in saying that I'm happy you're giving this at least a shot. Happiness is not what we dream the world to be, but what we find in the world.

As just another guy on the internet, I appreciate the thought.

Also, should you care to know, we had a lengthy heart to heart, all cards on the table, and talked things through. There's a lot more, but the long and short of it is that neither of us wants to end it. So yeah, we're staying together.

Feels kind of unreal tho. Not in a bad way, but in that 'wow, didn't see that coming' way.

ObsidianJones:
I view CancelCulture the same way I view Religion, as it were. For every white nationalist saying God made their race superior so they are allowed and duty bound to strike at the 'lessers', there are people who use their religion to give them strength to go out and do wondrous things because they want to share in their beliefs and their idea that we should be good to each other.

For every half-baked, knee jerk reaction to a really bad date like Aziz Ansari... there are people taking down the Harvey Weinsteins.

I don't disagree with any of that, except you've suddenly narrowed the scope of cancel culture down to the Me Too movement (are they even truly the same thing?). I'm absolutely delighted that the Weinsteins and Epsteins of this world are sleeping a bit less soundly at night; if social justice has a legitimate purpose then holding those in power accountable for their actions and holding them to the same standards as the rest of society is surely part of that.

The Cancel Culture I'm objecting to is the encouragement of swift and uncritical mob justice, often based on little more than rumour, hearsay, incomplete or downright misrepresented information. The leftist equivalent to McCarthyism in the age of social media, basically.

My shower thought.

Those Final Destination movies.. Can someone explain them to me?

Essentially, if Death's plan gets messed up, Death will hunt down that person who escaped and kill them in horrible fashions.

... Ok... So, Hospitals exist in that world. Police do. EMTs, Firefighters, Hell, Crossing Guards exist. literally millions upon millions of people are saving the lives of the entire population of earth every day. What does that mean? That gunshot wound that was treated by the hospital was never meant to be fatal at all? It was just to keep a couple of Nurses and Doctors busy? That horrific bus crash? That was just a practice for when it's actually going to take lives a few years down the road.

Or is death actively looking at everyone who's survived an life-threatening ordeal coming out of the hospital and is ready to pick them off with a Cosmic Rube-Goldberg device?

Also, it basically says there's no such thing as free will. In the second movie where one of the survivors decides on suicide instead of waiting for Death to come, Death doesn't allow the suicide to happen. This was shown in the Fourth Final Destination as well when another survivor actively commits suicide over and over with no success.

So, that means any time someone actually successfully commits suicide, Death purposefully disrupted that poor person's life so much that they would choose that option as death's plan. Be it being cheated on, losing everything, or just a chemical imbalance, that was made specifically because Death chose Suicide for that person's exit.

Final Destination is a horrible horror movie universe to live in. Because it's not even hidden any more. These things happen enough that people see the patterns and talk about them in later movies. If you're born in Final Destination, your only purpose is to live out to the eventual death that Death picked out for you.

That's mortifying (excuse the pun)

Batou667:

ObsidianJones:
I view CancelCulture the same way I view Religion, as it were. For every white nationalist saying God made their race superior so they are allowed and duty bound to strike at the 'lessers', there are people who use their religion to give them strength to go out and do wondrous things because they want to share in their beliefs and their idea that we should be good to each other.

For every half-baked, knee jerk reaction to a really bad date like Aziz Ansari... there are people taking down the Harvey Weinsteins.

I don't disagree with any of that, except you've suddenly narrowed the scope of cancel culture down to the Me Too movement (are they even truly the same thing?). I'm absolutely delighted that the Weinsteins and Epsteins of this world are sleeping a bit less soundly at night; if social justice has a legitimate purpose then holding those in power accountable for their actions and holding them to the same standards as the rest of society is surely part of that.

The Cancel Culture I'm objecting to is the encouragement of swift and uncritical mob justice, often based on little more than rumour, hearsay, incomplete or downright misrepresented information. The leftist equivalent to McCarthyism in the age of social media, basically.

You see, this is why I like talking things out. We have much more common ground than we think.

You're right. Mob Justice is a horrible thing. Like I mentioned with Aziz. But my point of CancelCulture is that it's not even just an SJW thing as people like to paint it. It's CancelCulture when a group of 'lefties' want to point out an act ergerious to them and it's toxic. It's "voting with your dollars" when people call for others to because it has a hint of political 'wokeness'. It's speaking out against 'Anti-White Propaganda' when certain people called for a Boycott of The Force Awakens. It's for the sensitity of the audience when a Radio Host is fired in the middle of his show for speaking ill of Trump. When a cyclist flips off the President on her own time she's let go from her work.

Your last sentence is what I'm getting at essentially. This is not a leftist thing. This isn't a right-wing thing. This is something we've done in all of society. This is what we do always. And we dress it up with new terms and labels, and say it's only the other guys who are doing it, and ignoring what 'our party' is doing.

Nothing gets learned by that. If we all hate it, we all have to realized we're all doing it and take steps to erase it. Not shrug our shoulders and say "Hey, it's them. Not us".

If you hate it when people on the left do it, you need to get on your own party twice as hard when they slip up. And be just as vocal as you are for the left. And there's no "well, I just don't see it that much when my side does it". I whipped those out just by memory. It's all around, it's everpresent. And it's just up to us to pay attention to it all, or pay attention to what perceptions we like to believe.

The word androgynous is a combination of two root words meaning male and female. Male 'andr' from words like android and misandry, and female 'gyn' like in misogyny and gynecologist. Funny how words have all these connections that you don't see for the first 20 years of using them.

Drathnoxis:
The word androgynous is a combination of two root words meaning male and female. Male 'andr' from words like android and misandry, and female 'gyn' like in misogyny and gynecologist. Funny how words have all these connections that you don't see for the first 20 years of using them.

I suggest learning a bit of latin cuz it helps you pick up all the root words, and you get a decent grasp at romance languages.

Marik2:

Drathnoxis:
The word androgynous is a combination of two root words meaning male and female. Male 'andr' from words like android and misandry, and female 'gyn' like in misogyny and gynecologist. Funny how words have all these connections that you don't see for the first 20 years of using them.

I suggest learning a bit of latin cuz it helps you pick up all the root words, and you get a decent grasp at romance languages.

No.

(and I knew that I would get this comment "oh, why don't you just learn this dead language for no reason at all!")

Shower thought I had today:
A lot of the LGBT discourse in shows and cartoons is about how unsubtle western media is compared to Japanese media. How much of it's "being shoved down our throats", and I gotta say, I don't see it. It certainly seems hyped up more (that might just be because I don't speak/read Japanese), but when we get down to actual examples, I just don't see it.

Like, every LGBT character in western media is either able to played f as a joke, sequestered into their own corner where they can be edited out, or has some special modifier where a binary gender doesn't really apply to them. Like, in SheRa, Double Trouble is word-of-god non-binary, but in the show they're just a shapeshifter that people refer to as they/them when others occasionally use pronouns about them. Are Bow's dads gay or bi? Is one of them trans? Is Bow a magic baby or adopted? We don't know. The lesbian couple in The Dragon Prince are revealed in a flashback and dead. The Crystal Gems are mono-gendered space rocks. It's background scenes and speculation.

Meanwhile, if there's an LGBT character in anime, you fucking know it. You'll get it announced in plain text straight up, often with an internal monologue soliloquy. At its most subtle, they'll actively reject their old name (Lily, not Masao). Other characters will monologue to each other about the LGBT character's past and give a primer on prejudice or dysphoria. If there's a death scene or something they'll beg to be remembered how they really are. If it's being portrayed sympathetically and their's a villain present, said villain will be called a bigot to their face. (Thank you Dirty Pair) Yeah, a lot of the times it's portrayed as gross but it's unambiguously *there*, to the point that to censor it out, American censorship boards had gender bend characters or invent familial ties to the point of making everybody uncomfortable.

I suppose what I'm saying is: yeah, I'm mad at the difference in subtlety between Japanese and western media. I wish western media was more direct.

altnameJag:
Shower thought I had today:
A lot of the LGBT discourse in shows and cartoons is about how unsubtle western media is compared to Japanese media. How much of it's "being shoved down our throats", and I gotta say, I don't see it. It certainly seems hyped up more (that might just be because I don't speak/read Japanese), but when we get down to actual examples, I just don't see it.

Like, every LGBT character in western media is either able to played f as a joke, sequestered into their own corner where they can be edited out, or has some special modifier where a binary gender doesn't really apply to them. Like, in SheRa, Double Trouble is word-of-god non-binary, but in the show they're just a shapeshifter that people refer to as they/them when others occasionally use pronouns about them. Are Bow's dads gay or bi? Is one of them trans? Is Bow a magic baby or adopted? We don't know. The lesbian couple in The Dragon Prince are revealed in a flashback and dead. The Crystal Gems are mono-gendered space rocks. It's background scenes and speculation.

Meanwhile, if there's an LGBT character in anime, you fucking know it. You'll get it announced in plain text straight up, often with an internal monologue soliloquy. At its most subtle, they'll actively reject their old name (Lily, not Masao). Other characters will monologue to each other about the LGBT character's past and give a primer on prejudice or dysphoria. If there's a death scene or something they'll beg to be remembered how they really are. If it's being portrayed sympathetically and their's a villain present, said villain will be called a bigot to their face. (Thank you Dirty Pair) Yeah, a lot of the times it's portrayed as gross but it's unambiguously *there*, to the point that to censor it out, American censorship boards had gender bend characters or invent familial ties to the point of making everybody uncomfortable.

I suppose what I'm saying is: yeah, I'm mad at the difference in subtlety between Japanese and western media. I wish western media was more direct.

It's really weird how murica talks about diversity and inclusiveness, but lgbt characters are just background props. While Japan has a don't ask don't tell about lgbt issues, but their pop culture blatantly talks about lgbt characters.

For some reason, Kahoot! forbids me from using the nickname "Kabongo". What the hell is wrong with it? I just want to pay homage to the Senegalese cartoon, Kabongo le Griot. Or does it just ban any name that begins with "ka"? Ffs, might as well go kashoot myself.

So I spent an hour shoveling my car out of my normal spot in my complex. There's no assigned parking per se, but normally you pull up in front of your domicile.

I come back and there's someone parked in my space. Logically, I know there's no assigned parking. I get it. But my body, my time, the food I prepared and ate went into clearing out that space. My body is still spent. I easily moved a few hundred pounds for that.

Logic be damned when effort has been spent.

My opinion of a person lowers when they take someone's efforts for their personal 'good luck'.

This literally counts as a shower thought because I'm about to remove the sweat caked on my body due to the shoveling.

Chimpzy:

ObsidianJones:
Hey, I know I'm just some guy on the internet with you, but seeing this got my eyes welling up. I don't think I'm alone in saying that I'm happy you're giving this at least a shot. Happiness is not what we dream the world to be, but what we find in the world.

As just another guy on the internet, I appreciate the thought.

Also, should you care to know, we had a lengthy heart to heart, all cards on the table, and talked things through. There's a lot more, but the long and short of it is that neither of us wants to end it. So yeah, we're staying together.

Feels kind of unreal tho. Not in a bad way, but in that 'wow, didn't see that coming' way.

Hey, just saw this. I'm absolutely pumped for you two! Enjoy what you have, and be happy.

Marik2:

altnameJag:
Shower thought I had today:
A lot of the LGBT discourse in shows and cartoons is about how unsubtle western media is compared to Japanese media. How much of it's "being shoved down our throats", and I gotta say, I don't see it. It certainly seems hyped up more (that might just be because I don't speak/read Japanese), but when we get down to actual examples, I just don't see it.

Like, every LGBT character in western media is either able to played f as a joke, sequestered into their own corner where they can be edited out, or has some special modifier where a binary gender doesn't really apply to them. Like, in SheRa, Double Trouble is word-of-god non-binary, but in the show they're just a shapeshifter that people refer to as they/them when others occasionally use pronouns about them. Are Bow's dads gay or bi? Is one of them trans? Is Bow a magic baby or adopted? We don't know. The lesbian couple in The Dragon Prince are revealed in a flashback and dead. The Crystal Gems are mono-gendered space rocks. It's background scenes and speculation.

Meanwhile, if there's an LGBT character in anime, you fucking know it. You'll get it announced in plain text straight up, often with an internal monologue soliloquy. At its most subtle, they'll actively reject their old name (Lily, not Masao). Other characters will monologue to each other about the LGBT character's past and give a primer on prejudice or dysphoria. If there's a death scene or something they'll beg to be remembered how they really are. If it's being portrayed sympathetically and their's a villain present, said villain will be called a bigot to their face. (Thank you Dirty Pair) Yeah, a lot of the times it's portrayed as gross but it's unambiguously *there*, to the point that to censor it out, American censorship boards had gender bend characters or invent familial ties to the point of making everybody uncomfortable.

I suppose what I'm saying is: yeah, I'm mad at the difference in subtlety between Japanese and western media. I wish western media was more direct.

It's really weird how murica talks about diversity and inclusiveness, but lgbt characters are just background props. While Japan has a don't ask don't tell about lgbt issues, but their pop culture blatantly talks about lgbt characters.

Meanwhile, how dare Legend of Korra shove their SJW agenda down our throats because Korra and Asami hold haloes and walk off into the sunset at the very end of the series, unlike Hoshiai no Sora, the sports anime with a gender-questioning non-binary kid that just gave me a two minute primer on gender dysphoria regarding their trans dude side character.

Western animation discourse is gonna give me a stroke. image

ObsidianJones:
So I spent an hour shoveling my car out of my normal spot in my complex. There's no assigned parking per se, but normally you pull up in front of your domicile.

I come back and there's someone parked in my space. Logically, I know there's no assigned parking. I get it. But my body, my time, the food I prepared and ate went into clearing out that space. My body is still spent. I easily moved a few hundred pounds for that.

Pick up the snow you moved aside, and block them in with it. Hopefully it's nice and solid and hard-packed by now.

How much can a human truly understand grief if they believe in their heart that their loved ones still exist in a plain of pure happiness just waiting for them to kick the bucket so they can have a good old knees up for the rest of eternity?

Neurotic Void Melody:
How much can a human truly understand grief if they believe in their heart that their loved ones still exist in a plain of pure happiness just waiting for them to kick the bucket so they can have a good old knees up for the rest of eternity?

I'll answer this.

My better than best friend (what we called each other) passed in May 2018. Due to an asshole doctor who slapped a band aid on a serious condition, her health waned as her body didn't get the care that she needed. Years after the quack did nothing, her body wilted from her disease. She had a number of surgeries, and they were always trying to get ahead of the thing, but it was so ingrained in her body at that point that it was just inevitable that it would all come crashing down.

And it did.

She was in constant, severe pain every day. If she was lucky, she was at a dull 4.5 out of 10 for the entire day. She was on a wild variety of drugs that would work for a few months, and then the pain would overtake the treatment.

Her last days, she had to fight with her doctors because the dosage wasn't enough and people thought she was just getting high off of it. She just wanted to be able to sleep through a night.

She doesn't feel pain any more. She was an atheist. But she's free of pain. That would feel like heaven if you were constantly suffering.

And I still grieve to this day because I miss her. I grieve out of selfishness. No one is around to call me a brat. No one around to make me smile with just the light she would bring even on her most painful days.

And if there's a Heaven and we end up there somehow, I grieve that I lived my life without her. That's one thing I never wanted to do. Meeting up in Heaven and catching her up is a wonderful idea. But nothing could ever hold a candle to living all those experiences with her.

Post on top of another post, because I got it like that.

It's been officially 3 months since I put a razor to my face.

And my 'beard' is an unkempt (not for a lack of trying) hipster styled mess. Even though I'm well into my 30's... hell almost done with my 30's, I still have patches of my beardline that doesn't grow hair. And it looks like I styled it in this manner.

Totally pissed. Don't want to look like a hipster. Want to have a beard.

"Did they name oranges that because they're that color, or was the color named after the fruit?"

Looked it up. It's the latter.

ObsidianJones:
Post on top of another post, because I got it like that.

It's been officially 3 months since I put a razor to my face.

And my 'beard' is an unkempt (not for a lack of trying) hipster styled mess. Even though I'm well into my 30's... hell almost done with my 30's, I still have patches of my beardline that doesn't grow hair. And it looks like I styled it in this manner.

Totally pissed. Don't want to look like a hipster. Want to have a beard.

I feel your pain; I can't grow a beard either. I've never really wanted one, but that stems mostly from the fact that it's never been something I could have; I grow stubble just fine, but then it simply stops, and I get the "you need to shave" comments instead of the "oh, you're growing a beard" ones. I think the longest I ever went without shaving was about two weeks, then it just stagnated, itched and looked terrible.

Xprimentyl:
I feel your pain; I can't grow a beard either. I've never really wanted one, but that stems mostly from the fact that it's never been something I could have; I grow stubble just fine, but then it simply stops, and I get the "you need to shave" comments instead of the "oh, you're growing a beard" ones. I think the longest I ever went without shaving was about two weeks, then it just stagnated, itched and looked terrible.

... So, all I hear is that you want to have a Bad Beard-off. I accept. Name your rules and stakes.

Xprimentyl:

ObsidianJones:
Post on top of another post, because I got it like that.

It's been officially 3 months since I put a razor to my face.

And my 'beard' is an unkempt (not for a lack of trying) hipster styled mess. Even though I'm well into my 30's... hell almost done with my 30's, I still have patches of my beardline that doesn't grow hair. And it looks like I styled it in this manner.

Totally pissed. Don't want to look like a hipster. Want to have a beard.

I feel your pain; I can?t grow a beard either. I?ve never really wanted one, but that stems mostly from the fact that it?s never been something I could have; I grow stubble just fine, but then it simply stops, and I get the ?you need to shave? comments instead of the ?oh, you?re growing a beard? ones. I think the longest I ever went without shaving was about two weeks, then it just stagnated, itched and looked terrible.

You aren't missing anything. Facial hair is annoying as shit to deal with. Don't be fooled by the incredibly stupid commercials I've seen popping up lately, that lean so heavily into the "if you don't have a lumberjack beard, you are a woosy beta cuck of a man" type of marketing to make you think it's somehow magical to have one, and then buy their product. You literally have to do nothing at all, and genetics allowing, have a massive beard. I have a friend in his late 30s now, and he's never had much luck with facial hair. It's never been an issue for the rest of us, because we have so much hair growing it's like trying to wrestle a yeti to keep it under control. I'd love to not have to worry about shaving as frequently as I have to, in order to stay clean looking for work.

Seriously, fuck facial hair.

Society should get over the n-word. Shower thought triggered by the recent/ongoing Twitch drama about a young woman with Tourette's who ticks with the most unfortunate words and expressions (at least right now, it ebbs and flows). And everyone says it's fine, thus in conclusion...

ObsidianJones:

Xprimentyl:
I feel your pain; I can't grow a beard either. I've never really wanted one, but that stems mostly from the fact that it's never been something I could have; I grow stubble just fine, but then it simply stops, and I get the "you need to shave" comments instead of the "oh, you're growing a beard" ones. I think the longest I ever went without shaving was about two weeks, then it just stagnated, itched and looked terrible.

... So, all I hear is that you want to have a Bad Beard-off. I accept. Name your rules and stakes.

No more shaving until Half-Life 3 comes out. As such a time will be clear evidence of the Matrix, whoever's beard looks worse gets to take the red pill, leave the simulation and jack back in wearing leather, sweet sunglasses and wicked kung fu skills.

Happyninja42:

Xprimentyl:

ObsidianJones:
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You aren't missing anything. Facial hair is annoying as shit to deal with. Don't be fooled by the incredibly stupid commercials I've seen popping up lately, that lean so heavily into the "if you don't have a lumberjack beard, you are a woosy beta cuck of a man" type of marketing to make you think it's somehow magical to have one, and then buy their product. You literally have to do nothing at all, and genetics allowing, have a massive beard. I have a friend in his late 30s now, and he's never had much luck with facial hair. It's never been an issue for the rest of us, because we have so much hair growing it's like trying to wrestle a yeti to keep it under control. I'd love to not have to worry about shaving as frequently as I have to, in order to stay clean looking for work.

Seriously, fuck facial hair.

I've got some facial hair, a mustache, soul patch and a chin strip, but that's about all that'll grow; everywhere else on my face is like dead grass. But like I said, I've no real desire for a beard (not pressed by the latest "groomed lumberjack" trend; I actually find it quite pretentious,) I'd just like to have the option.

Is it just me or do Boris Johnson and Donald Trump have an uncanny resemblance.

TopazFusion:
Is it just me or do Boris Johnson and Donald Trump have an uncanny resemblance.

It at least appears they might have the same avant-garde hairdresser.

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