Anybody find sex overrated?

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Obviously i'm not the only one but just sort of curious what others thoughts were.
As life goes on I still desire sex but more and more there are a bunch of things I'd rather do. Instead of sleeping in and getting some morning action I'd rather go run errands. Instead of taking a day off with the lady I'd really like to get caught up on work.

Increasingly taking the hour or two to have sex just doesn't seem worth it when there are so many other things I could be doing like flying, or riding the motorcycle, or getting lunch with friends, or watching a new series or reading a book I got into, or playing GTA or Titanfall online.

I see so much stuff on sex and it just seems like every guy is trying to get it all the time or that its this super awesome fun thing but i'm just here like 2-3 times a month is good for me and its fun but not enough to cause me to want to do it more often. (its not for lack of diversity in sex either lol)

edit captcha " roller coaster" (i'd rather ride that lol)

Well sex is one of the most basic desires for obvious reasons. On the same page, it's frequently suppressed (at leadt where I am) for the concept of decency. I think that combination serves to idealize and idolize sex and those who can get it with many people.

That all said, I like sexytimes myself.

No. next question.

:P

On a more serious note relationship mellow after the inital infatuation stage. sex drops off but at the same time trust and experiance of each other goes up so sex gets better even if more spaced out in terms of frequency.

That's how its always worked out for me anyway.

And i always say "the best sex takes place inside long term relationships" because the amount of trust and familiarality gives way to a much more casual realaxed atttude to it and at the same time an enviroment in which both parties feel comfortable broaching and exporing things "in the bedroom"...or y'know...not...or something ^^

On a side note i ponder how can you "overrate" something that's almost imposible to describe in the default ?...

proffesional writers hand out mocking awards for bad discriptions of sex in each others work y'know. proffesional writers. laymen/women can actually barely encapsulate it at all.

i think in all honestly you've probably never really "overrated" sex and this is really rather more all theoretical ;P

Basically, yeah.
I remember when I first had it with my now ex-girlfriend and my thought afterwards was "THAT was it?! This is what guys in my high school went crazy over?! This is what Yoko Ono did to break up the Beatles and what caused the Trojan War? This is what drove Othello to murder his wife and what most people it seems can't get enough of?!"

And it never got better, lest you say it was a single bad experience or she's not that good. Multiple times with multiple partners. Boring as shit to the point I'd get my partner off, then just leave before getting off myself. It wasn't worth the extra effort or time.

Massive let down. I now look at sex as something boring people do when there's nothing on good on TV, your game console and PC are both broke, neither of you is hungry or tired and there are no good movies to go see. As far as I'm concerned there are always better uses of my time than getting laid.

After having done about five-ish hook-ups, sex doesn't really appeal to me anymore. I learned a few things and had fun, but it's just scratching an itch. Right now I'd much rather hold off any wholesome fornication until I'm in a relationship first; I imagine that makes aftersex less awkward.

There is a dutch song by Annie MG Schmidt called 'was that all?' which basically makes the same point silentpony makes above.

Some people hype sex up to be the best thing ever. Apparently it has brought people to murder and lie and cry and kill themselves. I'm not sure how it couldn't disappoint the expectations some people have set for it.

I'm still looking forward to it though. It's not going to be perfect but that doesn't mean I'm dissuaded at all. <.<

I don't think it's the most important or exciting thing ever, but it's something I desire and enjoy. Most of the reason I enjoy sex is for the intimacy, not necessarily getting off. Closeness and physical touch are important to me in a romantic sense, and sex facilitates that rather well (post-sex cuddling is the best).

Sex keeps the species alive. It's as overrated as oxygen. And I love oxygen.

Silentpony:
Basically, yeah.
I remember when I first had it with my now ex-girlfriend and my thought afterwards was "THAT was it?! This is what guys in my high school went crazy over?! This is what Yoko Ono did to break up the Beatles and what caused the Trojan War? This is what drove Othello to murder his wife and what most people it seems can't get enough of?!"

And it never got better, lest you say it was a single bad experience or she's not that good. Multiple times with multiple partners. Boring as shit to the point I'd get my partner off, then just leave before getting off myself. It wasn't worth the extra effort or time.

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This was my experience. First time wasn't great but I expected that, then a couple months of frequent sex later it just wasn't getting better. Now half a decade of sexy times in every location and position its still no better. I don't hate sex and find women very attractive but its just not something I find fun in comparison to other activities.

Johnny Novgorod:
Sex keeps the species alive. It's as overrated as oxygen. And I love oxygen.

You're just an addict, man! Why, I'll bet you couldn't even go five MINUTES without a hit of that sweet, sweet O2!

Well, I like it. Very far from the most important or fun thing to me, but I'll usually jump at the chance for my boyfriend and I to have some sexytimes. Then we can play video games immedietly afterwards! Yay!

Sometimes you gel really well with someone sexually and it's fucking (hurr...) amazing, other times you don't and it's basically a posh wank. And that's all I have to say about that.

As the old saying goes: "Sex is like oxygen. It's not a big deal until you don't have it anymore."

Since you clearly have a significant other and can have sex basically anytime you want to, it's not as significant to actually have sex, and thus it's not a big deal and feels 'overrated'. Be single and celibate for several months, and all of the sudden you'll start thinking sex is the greatest thing ever.

It's like a rich person telling an ultra poor person that going to the movies is no big deal. Sure it's not when you can afford to go anytime you want, but for someone who can only afford to go once every 3 months it is.

It depends on the person. Sex as a standalone thing is indeed overrated, if all you want to do is get off, just use your hands. It'd be more efficient that way, too. Probably more pleasurable.

If you're with someone that excites you, someone that you care deeply for... sex becomes an intimate activity, and those can be really rewarding.

Nobody should be expected to strive for sex for sex's sake. I wish masturbation wasn't regarded with mockery, it's a far better way to "bust a nut" than involving other people.

DizzyChuggernaut:
It depends on the person. Sex as a standalone thing is indeed overrated, if all you want to do is get off, just use your hands. It'd be more efficient that way, too. Probably more pleasurable.

If you're with someone that excites you, someone that you care deeply for... sex becomes an intimate activity, and those can be really rewarding.

Nobody should be expected to strive for sex for sex's sake. I wish masturbation wasn't regarded with mockery, it's a far better way to "bust a nut" than involving other people.

In my experience that's typically only an issue for women. It's pretty much assumed that men masturbate regularly, despite it being taboo to talk about. Women on the other hand are basically shamed for it--which is really odd to me. Most women I know that have embraced masturbation are happier for it.

Depends entirely on the sex.

There's some awful sex, so you could say that sex by itself is easily overrated. But Christ the good kind is divine.

Fappy:

In my experience that's typically only an issue for women. It's pretty much assumed the men masturbate regularly (and many do), despite it being taboo to talk about. Women on the other hand are basically shamed for it--which is really odd to me. Most women I know that have embraced masturbation are happier for it.

While I will agree that women face more stigma for masturbating than men do (probably because it is talked about far less), the general idea is that masturbation is seen as an inferior "substitute" for sex. People masturbate because they can't get laid. Rather than a substitute for sex, I'd prefer it if it were regarded as a separate thing.

DizzyChuggernaut:

Fappy:

In my experience that's typically only an issue for women. It's pretty much assumed the men masturbate regularly (and many do), despite it being taboo to talk about. Women on the other hand are basically shamed for it--which is really odd to me. Most women I know that have embraced masturbation are happier for it.

While I will agree that women face more stigma for masturbating than men do (probably because it is talked about far less), the general idea is that masturbation is seen as an inferior "substitute" for sex. People masturbate because they can't get laid. Rather than a substitute for sex, I'd prefer it if it were regarded as a separate thing.

I'll be honest, as a guy I never really got that impression. In sex ed we were taught that masturbation is perfectly healthy and normal, and all of my guy friends growing up did it regularly--even while in relationships. Could just be my anecdotal experience, but I think that stigma isn't all that relevant these days... not to millennials, anyway.

I don't have a sex drive. I can't really think of any other way to describe the way I feel, or I guess don't feel. I don't get it. Sure I have things I'm attracted to, my types of women, but I don't care to do anything or pursue anything. That drive... that desire, it's just not there.

Nobody believes me when I say it. When I say I don't masturbate they don't believe me either. But I don't. It's just not something I care about. Whatever neurons spark that desire for intimacy and sex, they just aren't firing.

Ishal:
I don't have a sex drive. I can't really think of any other way to describe the way I feel, or I guess don't feel. I don't get it. Sure I have things I'm attracted to, my types of women, but I don't care to do anything or pursue anything. That drive... that desire, it's just not there.

Nobody believes me when I say it. When I say I don't masturbate they don't believe me either. But I don't. It's just not something I care about. Whatever neurons spark that desire for intimacy and sex, they just aren't firing.

Lack of sex drive can be caused by a whole plethora of things. As far as I understand it, it's typically linked to hormonal unbalance. If it bothers you you could always get your hormone levels checked and see what's up.

Sex is icky, nonessential, -

-unless I'm having it, in which case, it's a glorious gift from a loving god composed entirely of my favorite snack foods and beverages who wuvs me a whole huggy bunch, until mere moments after climax and then it's-

- indicative of our base animal instincts holding sway over our intellect, and is highly overrated.

Fappy:

DizzyChuggernaut:

Fappy:

In my experience that's typically only an issue for women. It's pretty much assumed the men masturbate regularly (and many do), despite it being taboo to talk about. Women on the other hand are basically shamed for it--which is really odd to me. Most women I know that have embraced masturbation are happier for it.

While I will agree that women face more stigma for masturbating than men do (probably because it is talked about far less), the general idea is that masturbation is seen as an inferior "substitute" for sex. People masturbate because they can't get laid. Rather than a substitute for sex, I'd prefer it if it were regarded as a separate thing.

I'll be honest, as a guy I never really got that impression. In sex ed we were taught that masturbation is perfectly healthy and normal, and all of my guy friends growing up did it regularly--even while in relationships. Could just be my anecdotal experience, but I think that stigma isn't all that relevant these days... not to millennials, anyway.

Yeah, going to echo and contradict the point a bit here and I was born at the tail end of the 80s.

Was never taught that there was any sort of 'shame' associated with it (outside of the standard, "keep it to yourself" and basic public decency, for both genders) and it's been pretty commonly accepted that girls do it too. As far as I'm aware (ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE IN 10 FOOT CAPS) it's much less stigmatized with women and seen as more...well, hot. With guys, it's expected to be sure, yet it's considered 'sad' or 'pathetic' compared to actually sexing a lady.

Some dude fapping isn't sexy, even to most females I've spoken to, but a girl getting in touch with herself? Fanfare.

As it should be. >_>

Fappy:

Ishal:
I don't have a sex drive. I can't really think of any other way to describe the way I feel, or I guess don't feel. I don't get it. Sure I have things I'm attracted to, my types of women, but I don't care to do anything or pursue anything. That drive... that desire, it's just not there.

Nobody believes me when I say it. When I say I don't masturbate they don't believe me either. But I don't. It's just not something I care about. Whatever neurons spark that desire for intimacy and sex, they just aren't firing.

Lack of sex drive can be caused by a whole plethora of things. As far as I understand it, it's typically linked to hormonal unbalance. If it bothers you you could always get your hormone levels checked and see what's up.

Yeah, low testosterone or something. That could be it. I dunno. I've always been this way. When I think about it, it's like in that movie SuperBad. The one where the guys go on this quest to get alcohol to bring to a party, and in so doing impress the ladies so that they might get sex. That train of thought is just anathema to me. I'd never do that. I just don't care about sex.

I guess if I wanted intimacy then it'd be a problem. But I don't really want it. The whole thing is just not for me. I talk about it here, but that's only because I can't be shamed IRL for it. That's what happens whenever it get's brought up.

Not really, no.

...does that mean I don't get to talk now?

Having never experienced sex I can't say if it is overrated. My sex drive is unfortunately rather high at the moment though. Coupled with that, I have neither the capability nor the desire to actually find a partner, leaving me stuck yearning for something I know I won't get.

If I could turn off the sex drive I feel I would be somewhat better off.

I hate to be the one to say this, because I realize how arrogant it must sound, but if it's that unimpressive it's because you're doing it wrong.

Be more adventurous.

As a certified virgin[1] and an uncertified pervert[2], I can honestly say that sex is both overrated and underrated because nature loves to fuck us all in the ass... and only the ass... With that said, I lack that "desire" to have sex, so I substitute it by being the "pervert" in my circle of friends... It's a nice trade-off, if I do say so myself...

Anyway, as time goes on, we will be the one's fucking nature in the ass by inventing non-hetero pregnancies... That'll show nature to finally evolve with the times! We're humans, nature!! Don't you start classifying what that means to some, but not to others, with your old-world logic, glob dammit!! ¡Viva la evolución!

Wait... What was the question again? I was too busy metaphorically biting nature's dick of a pussy... or pussy of a dick, depending on one's perspective...

[1] Given at birth, but will expire after the home stretch...
[2] Too much hoops to come through just to get that damn certification...

Being 27 and still a virgin I can't say I have ever had the pleasure of being able to find out if it's overrated or not. It's by choice though. I honestly couldn't care any less if I ever have sex or not.

Yes, having sex is overrated.

Making love is way more awesome.

Having sex and making love are two very different things. While having sex is more about pleasure, making love is about getting close and really intimate with someone who is dear to you. Having that connection and passion for each other is much better than just having sex and say goodbye to your fuck buddy after the act.
I know some people like to have sex without the romantic side of it but wait until they have a super awesome boyfriend/girlfriend (or husband/wife !), they might never go back ;)

Evil Moo:
Having never experienced sex I can't say if it is overrated. My sex drive is unfortunately rather high at the moment though. Coupled with that, I have neither the capability nor the desire to actually find a partner, leaving me stuck yearning for something I know I won't get.

If I could turn off the sex drive I feel I would be somewhat better off.

Pretty much this. I'm hopeless at conversation and physically unattractive. Instinct is a damn nuisance. Doesn't matter what I feel like I need or how bad I feel I need it. It only matters what I can have. What I can have is nothing. I'd replace myself with a robot double in a heartbeat. Just take away all those annoying feelings, they've gone from new and awkward, to agonizing and awkward, to a source of great shame and desperation, to a daily/hourly reminder of just how not-good-enough I am, before finally arriving at the sort of casual, tired contempt you see in joyless marriages. Nothing good has ever come from it. Stop the car, I want to get out.

Yeah, it most certainly is overrated. Then again I always been one more for the romance. Its weird seeing everyone talk bout how they hook up with so many people and at bars when it all seems so plain

To be fair, I dont think it could possibly be underrated considering society's fixation with it

Sex is the epitome of physical pleasure that we can naturally experience (i.e. sans drugs or some sort of artificial, neuro-scientific experiment).

Sex is 'overrated' because it's really the only thing that consistently provides pleasure, ideally both emotionally and physically. It's also so much harder to obtain and attain that sensation because it requires another, autonomous human being. Pain? Pain can happen whenever, wherever. And it can always get worse. Pleasure is fleeting, pain is infinite.

Nothing feels as good as an orgasm.

Examples: Stubbing one's toe hurts differently than a migraine, which hurts differently than cutting one's finger, which hurts differently than a kidney stone, which hurts differently than breaking a bone, ad infinitum.

An orgasm... what is even a near-equivalent experience?

Fappy:
In my experience that's typically only an issue for women. It's pretty much assumed that men masturbate regularly, despite it being taboo to talk about. Women on the other hand are basically shamed for it--which is really odd to me. Most women I know that have embraced masturbation are happier for it.

"Shamed for it?" I've always noticed that women masturbating is seen as sensual, sexy, erotic, and rare, whereas men masturbating is pathetic, sad and perverted. There's a pretty obvious reason for that, in my opinion, but I've never heard of ladies being shamed because they rub one out.

Evil Moo:
Having never experienced sex I can't say if it is overrated. My sex drive is unfortunately rather high at the moment though. Coupled with that, I have neither the capability nor the desire to actually find a partner, leaving me stuck yearning for something I know I won't get.

If I could turn off the sex drive I feel I would be somewhat better off.

I feel the same way, but I think the mechanisms involving sexual drive also affect other systems of our physiology. I know of a solution that I've found for myself, but it relies on other people and the downsides are extreme. If there were a way to shunt that one desire, however, I'd totally be on board.

Shraggler:
"Shamed for it?" I've always noticed that women masturbating is seen as sensual, sexy, erotic, and rare, whereas men masturbating is pathetic, sad and perverted. There's a pretty obvious reason for that, in my opinion, but I've never heard of ladies being shamed because they rub one out.

I suppose I should have specified that it's typically women shaming other women for masturbating. Men have no real reason to do that, of course (unless they're super religious). I am sure most guys on here would agree females flying solo is one of the best sights nature can offer!

Anyway, unless you're speaking from a religious perspective, I never see men getting shamed for spankin' it... and if they are it certainly isn't stopping them from doing it XD

Asexual speaking here so yes, I'd say it's overrated but then again, what *I* think of sex doesn't have anything to do with OTHER people liking to have sex. Go for it, if that's what you like.

I just.... -makes disgusted noises- No thanks. Just... just no thanks.

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