So Long, and Thanks For All The Flesh

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Maaaaan.
Good luck in 2012. This is one of the things that I checked every week on the escapist.

Can no one admit it? The Love FAQ got shit ratings, pure and simple! I mean, only three-hundred-and-fifty letters? Just look at the comments; they were just barely stretching out to a second page. And it's not like this should be surprising; it was a column about relationships at a gaming/media/entertainment website. I commend what The Escapist did here: they tried something new, it didn't work, and so then they simply discontinue it. Very nice.

My only minor concern is that they (or at least Laura) don't want people to know why they're cancelling the column. I don't know why, maybe it'd piss the community off; maybe it'd make them look like failures? I don't think either would happen, but all I know is they decided to not bring it up and leave the ballsier users by themselves to get ripped apart by the community for telling the truth. It's okay I know it hurts.

Okay sorry, sorry, regardless of my douchey smugness, I'm sad to see the FAQ end; I really liked it. I admire Crigger's brutal honesty and bullshitlessness. I say take that great insight somewhere more appropriate! Good luck!

PS: I didn't know 'ballsier' was a real word. Holy shit!

"Don't stick it in the crazy."

Best advice for men there is.

Bummer. I haven't been in a serious relationship yet but I greatly enjoyed reading your articles. They gave me something to look forward to on Fridays.

Maxtro:

Maybe I'm just stupid, but I expected articles geared towards helping nerds/geeks start dating and maintain relationships.

If that isn't what you saw, then it's quite possible that you are more blind to what you need to know or look for in romance than you think, to the point where you don't even see the value in what was posted in this column.

I don't know how successful your love life has been, and I have only your quoted sentence to go on, but if that's really the limit of your perception, then I don't expect things have gone well for you. I hope you can overcome that before too many years pass. You will need to radically change your perception of yourself and others.

OT: So long, your column was informative, amusing, sometimes a little disturbing due to the bizarre stories, but never boring. Thanks for the good reads.

You answered one of my letters not long ago, and while it didn't really answer my situation (due mostly to me not providing enough information, as it woulda gotten extremely cumbersome and complicated if I hadn't left a certain issue out) I still appreciated that you answered it nonetheless.

This last article has probably been the most insightful, though. All my time in trying to woo over my long-standing crush I've done nothing but formulate brilliant master plans and tried to perfect my timing to reach her the most efficiently. Maybe it's time I just stopped holding back my feelings for her and showed her how I really think of her.

UltraHammer:
Can no one admit it? The Love FAQ got shit ratings, pure and simple! I mean, only three-hundred-and-fifty letters? Just look at the comments; they were just barely stretching out to a second page. And it's not like this should be surprising; it was a column about relationships at a gaming/media/entertainment website. I commend what The Escapist did here: they tried something new, it didn't work, and so then they simply discontinue it. Very nice.

My only minor concern is that they (or at least Laura) don't want people to know why they're cancelling the column. I don't know why, maybe it'd piss the community off; maybe it'd make them look like failures? I don't think either would happen, but all I know is they decided to not bring it up and leave the ballsier users by themselves to get ripped apart by the community for telling the truth. It's okay I know it hurts.

Let me put this to rest right here and now: Nothing nefarious is going on behind the scenes here. Love FAQ wasn't "cancelled", and no one on the editorial team is hiding any "failures" from you the readers. It really is as I said in the column: I decided that now was the right time to move on. Plain and simple. I will miss writing it, to be sure, but no goodbye is completely painless.

As an aside: 10-20 letters a week for a specialty advice column isn't exactly small potatoes, at least from the management side of things.

Only articles I read regularly, surprisingly enough. I wish you well and I enjoyed reading your stuff.

Lara Crigger:
Let me put this to rest right here and now: Nothing nefarious is going on behind the scenes here. Love FAQ wasn't "cancelled", and no one on the editorial team is hiding any "failures" from you the readers. It really is as I said in the column: I decided that now was the right time to move on. Plain and simple. I will miss writing it, to be sure, but no goodbye is completely painless.

As an aside: 10-20 letters a week for a specialty advice column isn't exactly small potatoes, at least from the management side of things.

Okay then, cool. I see.

Can the Escapist keep no women writers?! I'm going to miss you Lara. Thanks for the articles.

I wasn't sure how well your column fit in with the rest of the site but it was fun to read. Sorry to see you go.

Oh. You're leaving us. Well, best of luck in your new endeavors. Loved these articles. They were always great in their openness, their poignancy, their ability to cross the normal threshold found with such sites, of not wanting to touch the relationship problems/benefits lines. You've helped me a little bit, and I'd just like you to know, it was nice having these here to read. I'll always have your broken pieces metaphor in my mind.

Thanks for everything, Lara.

Though, I might still like sticking it in crazy. Some things are hard to change. ;)

I can't say I am surprised. Most columns barely pulled in more than one page of comments, and most of them were people strongly disagreeing with Lara's advice. Since the explanation is quite vague, I have no idea what prompted this sudden departure from the column. Usually when people leave it's usually for a reason: either they got something better, they've run out of ideas, or something else. But here, Lara states that she still have unanswered letters and wishes she could have answered them. Something just seems fishy to me about the lack of any explanation behind the decision to stop.

Still, I am sad to see the colum go. Despite the fact I am not big into love myself, it was still amusing to read week to week.

Bold concept, brilliant execution. Sad to see you go, Lara.

Aw, I really enjoyed this column. I will miss it greatly :<

LetalisK:
Did...did Lara just break up with us?

Quick! Someone! Counsel us! Tell us again about why scary, hurtful feelings fade over time! And put in some game references while you're at it, so we feel totally comforted and all!

..Anyway, I literally whispered a long, drawn-out 'noooooooo' when I read this. I didn't always agree with the articles, like most of us, but it definitely was a fun and interesting read. Thanks for the articles, and good luck to you Lara!

Well, fuck. The only column on the Escapist that I read every week shuts down. Ain't that a B.

Thanks for the Love FAQ Lara. It was always an interesting read. Also thanks to those who wrote to her with their questions and problems.

Greetings. I usually found your column of little substance, sometimes immature and in all cases really unfitting in the context of this website. Also some of the issues that you chose to deal with were really serious and should not be addressed in a handful lines of text by a non-professional, especially in the form of non-dialectic articles. I am glad that we will have no more of this and wish you the best of luck with your future projects.

I for one will miss your columns Lara. They were an interesting and fun read and brightened my Fridays considerably. Hope your future looks bright though and that we'll see you around the Escapist in some other shape or form!

With a title like this, I thought this was going to be just another part in the series. After all, you did go over a similar problem, Lara. So long indeed.

That's a shame, I really did enjoy reading these, and reading the advice you'd give. I'll miss the conversations you'd create with these articles.

Good luck for the future, and I hope things work out the way you intend.

GOD DAMMIT!!! another good colume bites the dust. I can't say that many of the letters answered applied to my personal situation but they were always nice to read and generally agreed with what was said.

*sigh* well i wish you well in what ever it is you do next...nice Hitchhickers reference by the way.

Not really a great loss if I'm honest. While some of the advice was good, just as much of it was really bad and as previously mentioned, often rudely delivered unnecessarily. See the 'nice guys finish last' article for a good example. It wrongly assumed that all guys wanted to be banging chicks left and right as soon as possible, and didn't seem to consider it was perfectly okay to wait for someone who's really good for you.

I like the idea and I don't think relationship advice in a gaming editorial is a bad idea (most of us aren't really basement-dwelling neckbeards), but its just that the article was geared towards people who weren't gamers at all. And while I'm sure I don't speak for everyone here, but in my experience a lot of gamers are just nice guys who really want a girl who will share their hobbies and they can be comfortable with, rather than some really hot bimbo who'll jump ship at the first sign of interest from somebody else.

Edit: Sorry double post

A fitting end to a fantastic series!
Happy New Year, and good luck to you in all your future ventures!
(Make sure you tell us what they are)

I love your column. Thanks for all the good reading.
Farewell!

Well, thanks for all the articles, they were great to read and a nice firm dose of common sense. We'll all miss these.

Don't stick it in the crazy?

How else can you ever know if you truly have lived?! What else can you compare extreme... nvr mnd

OT: So long random internet doctor type guy, I hope you take a towel.

"Don't stick it in the crazy"? Are you mad? Crazy is best.

You just have to find the right type of crazy.

Some very rude replies in her columns. Have to agree, wont be missed.

Great, and all I can think about is this youtube video of someone screaming NNOOOO!

I'll miss you...

... <:,(

I'll miss your articles, they were fantastic, and it was an interesting feature to have on a gaming site. Best of luck in your other endeavours!

Thanks for a bold and unique article. I found your view on things enlighting or at least taken from an unexpected perspective. Happy 2012! Let your future work add even more color to whomever you choose to share it with. :)

Lara Crigger:
Let me put this to rest right here and now: Nothing nefarious is going on behind the scenes here. Love FAQ wasn't "cancelled", and no one on the editorial team is hiding any "failures" from you the readers. It really is as I said in the column: I decided that now was the right time to move on. Plain and simple. I will miss writing it, to be sure, but no goodbye is completely painless.

As an aside: 10-20 letters a week for a specialty advice column isn't exactly small potatoes, at least from the management side of things.

I'm sorry that you even had to weigh back in with this kind of thing. As a community, sometimes we're prone to emotionally acting our our own little confirmation biases -- "This was not my favorite, so obviously (in a roundabout way) that's the reason it's going," kind of stuff.

And on the numbers thing... it's as though people don't realize that a lot of that depends on people writing in with their deep, dark secrets and pains. A lot of people won't risk it, especially if they feel others might recognize the question (and hey, let's face it, paranoia lives in all of us, right?).

One might also consider that one article may have provided help to several people with the same problem, meaning they no longer needed to write in. While we find it tempting (as simple creatures) to let one number tell the whole story, it just plain doesn't.

This column provided something of a very different flavor from the other content, and that's never a bad thing. Of course we all know that people (especially Internet People) are far more likely to voice an objection than an agreement, so that skews the perception. And I know I was usually among those voices that could be considered "dissenting"...

...but, for me, that's only because the column raised many things worth discussing. And hell, it's the internet, not a shrink's office -- it's all just thought experiment and conjecture. More importantly, it can start conversations. About things other than which new game sucks the most, or what you'd do if the last item you used in a game was now your breakfast every morning, or something.

If you're leaving to pursue something new, I hope that it goes well. If you're leaving to focus on something that's already going, I hope it all works out. If you're leaving because your interests have changed, I hope you find enjoyment. Thank you for sharing with us.

Not much to say here, but yeah you'll be missed. I've only just got through reading all of your columns, and I have to say that it has helped, while no specific piece of advice helped the general mood of the entries helped to encourage me. 'tis a shame that this came to an end so soon.

p.s. First escapist forum post!

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