Last year i had no resolution, this year i decided that i should perhaps abuse the "news year resolution" to finally get my teeth fixed. been delaying it way too long as it is (worst thing - i feel no pain, which means there is no incentive to hurry to get them fixed). Dont know if ill keep it, but i hope i do. Ive been doing "Weigh loss" slowly over the last year. the goal wasnt to "loose weigh" in as much as "start walking longer distances regullary and eay vegetables at least once a day". after a few months of that i started getting comments of people noticing i lost weight, so i guess it worked.
Now because im crazy and its still earnly in the morning so im pretending i have time im going to comment on the article way more than i should.
1. Unreasonable goals. totally agree here, our goals are often very overblown and are impossible to do. for example at one point i had a goal (now removed) to read a list of books. silly me not doing the calculations beforehand - the list was long enough that if i read a book per day (unreasonably fast, unless i just picked the shortstories off the list only) it would have taken me over 100 years to get through the list. obviuosly, this is an unreasonable goal. the goal is now removed from my goals, but there still are plenty of long goals. nothing as crazy though. One of my goals should take, rough calculation, around 1000 hours to complete. many goals are much harder to calculate time for though. but i like pre-planning everything so im getting better at it.
2. Past failures. I have noticed this somewhat, but maybe its just my obsessive nature that i tend to just think of myself as "plowing through it anyway".
3. Turning mistakes into failures. the temptation to do that is very strong indeed. however my usual strategy is, once again to use weight loss example because the article seems to take it as main goal for some reason, i currently have a set limit of "no more than 5 candies per day". If i find myself i ate more than 6 due to some extraordinary situation (for example being offered in a meeting where saying no would insult a client or something) my strategy is "yeah, im cutting it off this day, only going to eat any tomorrow once the counter resets". Though i do have the "exception days" where i eat more bad food than normally. Actually, dietologists suggest that its a good idea to have a "anything goes" days once a month or so because then the body thinks there is going to be surplus and is less likely to try to save any fat you have just in case of true starvation. it sort of shocks the body of the hoarding mode that regular weigh loss often induces. i dont go overboard with it though.
4. Absolutes. We really should get rid of that "only sith deal with absolutes" thing. the saying itself is an absolute implying that someone that says it is a sith himself. That being said, yeah, there does seem to be tendency to do that. i have to conciuosly avoid those when setting goals. though sometimes i like to do a "ill do this no matter what" and just challenging myself to push it. never in things that are of massive consequence though.
5. Negative framing. Well, most of my goals would fit the positive framing they suggest, though i never paid attention to this stuff. perhaps it just naturally evolved as a better tactic of acomplishing since i had years of time to weed out the bad techniques?
6. Distant goals. Yep, with you there. I have massive goals, but all those goals are divided into a bunch of smaller goals that can be accomplished relatively quickly. turns a boring grind into effective checkpoint system. Its also worth setting up some reward system. like if your goal is to do 1000 of X and the small goal is to do 30 of X that belongs to group Y by the end of this week, if you finnish earlier reward yourself with not starting next group till next week, have soem time off of your goals. it helps keep sanity.
P.S. If Rhykker is reading comments still, im catching up on science podcast and once im in reasonable age (as in not in october podcasts) i may start writting massive coments again. Beware :D
So what should my resolution be if I want to, say, write a book? It apparently shouldn't be "write a book", because that's focusing too much on the long term. Write X hours a day/week? What's a reasonable value for X to both not burn out and be reasonably close to done by the end of the year?
Im not expert in book writting (wrote 2.5 books and gave up on being a novelist, none published) but ive been dealing with planning things for years in advance for, well, years. one thing i learned is to never overestimate yourself.
Think how much you can wrote per week. thein cut that amount in half and work with that. the cut amount will be much more realistic due to people overestimating themselves all the time, and you will feel awesome when you beat your goal too boot (regardless that it was cut to begin with). these little "oh i just finished 1 day earlier than planned" really gives a morale boost when your master plans are 5+ years long.